By Alexa Day
May is a busy month for everyone, isn’t it? Graduations. Mother’s Day. Memorial Day weekend, and the beginning of beach season.
I want to encourage you to add another priority to this month’s activities. May is also National Masturbation Month. I think it’s time you gave yourself a little more attention.
Probably not a huge surprise for you all to hear that from me, right? I’m all about making sure I come first, if you know what I mean. But if you’re still looking for reasons to take yourself in hand, I’ve got a couple.
Take the pressure off your partner. I don’t think any one other person should be solely responsible for your sexual pleasure. I do think we ourselves are the only people any of us can consistently and absolutely count on for our own happiness. Put those two philosophies together, and well … you don’t need to set aside a special month for masturbation.
It’s good for you. All those orgasmic pleasure hormones are actually at your disposal. Orgasm is also a cure for menstrual cramps — so why not skip the Midol this month and go to bed early?
Check in with your fantasies. If you pair fantasy and self-pleasure, why not use May to take a few extra minutes with your fantasy partners? I know I don’t want the same things from the same people as I did when I was younger, and I hope I don’t want the same things from the same people as I get older. But it’s fun to think about all that, isn’t it?
Check in with reality. If you’re lucky — by which I mean alive and healthy — your body’s responses to various physical stimuli will change and evolve. Playing with yourself — and toys and ice and blindfolds and whatever else strikes your fancy — is a great way to experiment with your changing physiology.
A woman’s sexuality is gloriously complicated, thank heavens. Why not use May for a little solo sexploration? Check out Good Vibrations (they came up with National Masturbation Month) when you come up for air. They’ve got some great information all ready for you, plus a super hot inventory of playthings for your amusement.
You might also look in on Sheri Winston. Her book, Women’s Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure, is one of my favorites, and her website will get you looking at sexuality in a fabulous playful way.
Okay. I’ve kept you busy long enough. Don’t you have someone to take care of?