By Alexa Day
A lot of the people in my daylight life don’t know what I do when I’m not on the day job. Every so often, they tell me that something might be outside my comfort zone. I just smile and nod at some of them, but if I’m feeling difficult, I tell others that my comfort zone has its own gravitational field.
With a comfort zone that big, strip dance class was a great fit for me. I tend to think it would be a great fit for a lot of people, if they were willing to slip out of their comfort zones long enough to give it a try. It is a spectacular workout and a great way to meet new people. Plus you’d be learning to dance. It doesn’t get much better than that, does it?
I’ve been to a couple of different types of exotic dance classes. I took a pole dance class a few years ago, and I’ve taken classes without the pole, too. The pole class is the single best upper-body workout I’ve ever had, bar none. Significant effort was necessary to keep from crashing into the pole, assisted by gravity and my own ineptitude. But I was hanging out with a lot of fellow students, and before long we were having a great time, running into the pole, struggling to learn the moves, and getting into the music. We all got a great workout, even if no one managed the fireman turn, and we all rediscovered the inner sex kitten hiding beneath the drudgery of our day-to-day.
As for the classes sans pole, the workout might have been less intense, but the content was definitely designed to amp up the sexy. Through floorwork and the use of props, like the chair for imaginary lap dances or an oversized shirt from home or that hat we’re always being invited to leave on, I found myself on a trip to a fantasy world. Each class was an escape to a place far sexier than the reality I’m stuck with. (Unless I’m writing. When I’m writing, reality is actually pretty hot.) I think the best thing about exotic dance classes without the pole is that it’s easier to practice at home. While it’s my dream to live somewhere with a pole I can practice on, I already have a chair, a shirt, and a hat right here at home.
And I bet you have chairs, shirts, and hats at home, too. Just saying.
This is usually where I start to encounter a little resistance. This isn’t you, some of you are saying. You’re not that sort of person. And I get it.
So you don’t want to be the sort of person who tries new things. I get it. I know a lot of those people. And I won’t judge you for living in a smaller comfort zone.
But I will challenge you. What’s your comfort zone doing for you? Why are you willing to allow your vision of what might happen keep you from the wonderful reality that could happen?
And really, what do you have to lose?
Hit me up in the comments with a note from your comfort zone, and let me know which class you’ve decided on!
**That question, “What do I have to lose?” Well, it’s at the heart of a lot of Alexa Day’s work. It’s the reason Grace Foley decides to help her bestie test an experimental pill in Illicit Impulse. And it’s why Chloe Newton decides to pay an old friend a visit in her upcoming short story, “Turnabout Day.” (That one’s out on August 22.) Check them both out and give your comfort zone a stretch!